I am overly interested in/appalled by/obsessed with the rudeness of people. I honestly wish that advanced degrees were offered in the study of rudeness because I believe it is my true calling in life. Let it go! normal people say to me. That's just his/her personality. HOGWASH, I say. Let it go? And waste a lifetime of collecting, filing, and cataloging the rudeness of people? All those agonizing hours just flushed down the toilet? I don't think so. No, I would much rather file that rude remark in the enlarged portion of my brain designated as "The Rudeness Center" to be recalled at a future, beneficial date. And can I just say that I am so tired of hearing the "that's just the way she is" excuse all the time? If we all just went around acting like ourselves, following our primal instincts, then almost everyone would be rude! If rude is "just the way you are" then you need to change the way you are. No more excuses!
But anyway. I'm really into the rudeness of other people. You can imagine that this--character flaw, super-human sensitivity, or 6th sense, whatever you'd like to call it--makes it hard to be married to me. Especially for a person like my husband, who is so good at letting things go and forgetting the past. I mean, the man hardly remembers my birthday (but, that is filed away for a future, beneficial date). I hear myself saying "but don't you think that was so rude?" to him all the time--particularly after church. My husband really is a saint for just saying "YES! Can you believe it?" to me when I am on a rudeness rampage.
I know we aren't supposed to be easily offended. But I feel that most of my interest in rudeness stems from genuine, detached fascination, rather than personal offense (unless the rudeness was directed right at me from a person who ought to know better--I'm looking at you, family). I just wonder, how can people be like this? Why do they think it's okay? I ask a lot of deep, probing rudeness-related questions, which is why I am such an expert.
Did you know that clicking over to call waiting while you are talking to someone, unless it is a serious emergency, is rude? Well, it is.
Did you know that making someone feel bad because they were half an hour late to a preschool parents meeting is rude? It is!
(This is just off the top of my head!)
Asking someone if they fed the dog or gave the chickens water in a certain tone: rude.
Dumping on somebody by name on your blog: also rude.
Inundating people with forwarded emails: rude.
Using a negative-sounding term to describe someone's Christmas present (i.e. "Oh, you got a big green pot"): rude.
Ah me. I could go on. But you've probably seen my other blog posts, and the rudeness of others is a running theme.
P.S. In case you are ready to tell me that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, I ought to let you know that a comment like that is so rude.